Phra Peter Pannapadipo, in his book Good Morning, Buddha, said that all of our problems or conflicts can be boiled down to our expectations which surround them.
My blogs yesterday, “What Defines Us,” and today “Parts of Self that Define Us” contend with this very issue.
In cases where we perceive substandard performance, perhaps the real issue has nothing to do with our performance, but rather the expectations we place on ourselves.
When we place unrealistic expecations on ourselves, we lay the groundwork for internal processes in which we perceive self as other. In contrast, Dr. Richard Schwartz has developed a therapeutic model called Internal Family Systems Therapy. The basic premise behind his work is to approach ourselves, and all the expectations that surround performance, with understanding, kindness, and love. Once we accomplish that for ourselves, we can then wholly offer understanding, kindness, and love to others.